Boost your love life with sexting

Sexting is described as the act of sending sexually explicit messages mainly through mobile phones. A 21st century innovation that became popular with the advancement in technology on internet communication, involving  not only text, but pictures and videos of subtle sexual innuendoes to outright sexual acts.

Several studies carried out by experts on texting reveal that its use now cut across age groups and class as opposed to earlier studies which suggested that it is dominantly practiced by teenager and young people.

According to a recent study conducted by internet security software McAfee titled, Love, Relationship and Technology released 4th February, 2014, 49 percent of US adults use their smartphones to send or receive sexual content via video, photo, e-mail, or messaging. 50 percent of adults who sext save the sexts and images they receive.

Of the sexters, 77 percent send explicit content to their significant other while 16 percent send it to complete strangers. It also confirmed that young people aged 18 to 24-year-olds are the age group most likely to partake in sexting. Of this age group, 70 percent of people receive suggestive photos and messages. Men are more likely to send and receive intimate information than women. 61 percent of men sext while 48 percent of women do.

Though fraught with negative connotations by many, especially because of the risks involved, sexting has also been discovered to have several benefits where properly managed and harnessed by those involved. Sexting may indeed be used to enhance relationships and sexual satisfaction in a romantic partnership. It is particularly helpful for couples who don’t get to see each other as much as they would like and has even been discovered that the need for it becomes even heightened when this happens.

Sexting generally will work well for most couple because it provides a platform for you to remain close even though you cannot see each other. A major plus for sexting is that for the shy partner, you can actually discuss your sexual preferences and fantasies without so much inhibition, thus promoting healthy communication. It is also a very good form of foreplay leading up to the real thing as partners can send messages of their intentions long before they physically connect to build up anticipation.  

To keep the fire of love and romance burning, sexting is perfect for flirting and bonding in relationships. Sexting allows partners unlimited opportunities and imaginations as you can either create your own content or source them from others or the internet. How far you go in terms of explicitness of content would depend on you and your partner. Let’s try some of these ideas to guide you in your sexting experience:

Be careful

For sexting, caution should be your watch word at all times. This is because of the negative side effects and surprises one may suffer should something go wrong. If you are sending personal content especially sexually explicit pictures and videos, be very careful that you are doing it with someone you know and trust and is not likely to breach that trust.

Always remember that change is sometimes inevitable and people will always evolve, so, even when you think you love or trust someone deeply, remember that you cannot control how the other person feels, nor predict their actions should the circumstances of your relationship change. Many ex lovers out of anger and spite have been known to do unspeakable things to their erstwhile loved ones. Also, messages can get into wrong hand, that is why accidents happen. Remember Anita Hogan’s story? The send button on hour smartphones does exactly what it’s supposed to on the instant. A mistake can happen. You may sent stuff to wrong contacts. Make sure you are on top of your game before you send because you can’t ‘unsend’.

Be honest

Many partners find it difficult to communicate effectively with each other, especially one on one. I have seen parents whose kids act as channels of communication between them in worst case scenario. Sexting affords partners opportunity to express themselves without emotional or psychological inhibitions. Sexting with help you take care of your shyness or shame and may even boost your confidence. If you can’t saw in your own words what you want to do or want done to you, you can ride on others by using images of your preferences. While gisting with a friend whose partner works out of town, she showed me a picture of a kissing couple her partner had sent her the night before. It was their goodnight kiss. Though the picture was nothing explicit, it said a thousand words and she confessed she had a wet dream that night. In the same way, never send messages you have no intensions of following up. It will only make you appear like a tease and liar. It is not nice to lead people on especially at the early stages of a relationship.

Be original

Nothing beats originality in sexting. It is your and more meaningful because it comes straight from the heart of the writer. Your own content will no doubt have more impact than content sourced from the internet.

In this area, I will recommend text messaging. With text, you can say whatever you want to and it will be yours. You can be explicit or coy depending on taste. Most times, less is more though. Try to spark his imagination rather than lay all your cards on the table at once. Do have a lovely Day

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